My career as a biographer has taught me that life is a series of stories that you tell yourself; the mistake we make is believing our stories of victimization and repeating them in our heads, ensuring that we will continue to react instead of respond to each moment. Reactions rush forth out of past pain and are full of self-justification (the moral high horse); responses arise from an inner capacity to be-with-what-is (breathing into the vulnerability that love calls us to). I call myself a grief doula, as I help folks release grief and let vitality in. I’m honored to work with forgiveness activist Lyndon Harris. I believe in the healing power of rituals as simple as lighting a candle with an intention, both as private actions and as moments of community-building and group witnessing.
58 Joyful Soul of Grief